The Embarrassment of Weight Gain, What to Do, What to Do
Lee,
If someone is sooooo focused on the few pounds that you gained AND can remember it from the last time they saw you....they ain't got much going on. The truth...most people don't remember that. The aren't even thinking about that! WE remember that about ourselves. (Our own worse critics)! They will just be glad to see you. They will be happy that you and your sexy azz showed up at the party and most likely will be thinking how fit and cut you look from the running and working out. Becca is right! Not to mention Lee, you look great!
If someone is sooooo focused on the few pounds that you gained AND can remember it from the last time they saw you....they ain't got much going on. The truth...most people don't remember that. The aren't even thinking about that! WE remember that about ourselves. (Our own worse critics)! They will just be glad to see you. They will be happy that you and your sexy azz showed up at the party and most likely will be thinking how fit and cut you look from the running and working out. Becca is right! Not to mention Lee, you look great!
They very well may notice and if they do, so what. You are doing what you need to do for you. You have to remember that diffrent folks see you at different points in your journey and if they notice a weight gain, they are commenting on that, not on your entire journey, so try not to let it bother you.
I went home to Texas in March 09 to recup from my surgery, my family was telling me that I had lost so much weight, they all saw me a year ago. I saw this aunt for the first time in like 25 years, and she said "Wow, you have gain weight, but then I guess we all are as we get older". I was looking dumb found as to why would she say that until I remember, when she last saw me, I was smaller than what I am today and she never saw me in my fat years. I was getting ready to get all up in my feelings.
Go to that dinner and have a good time because Becca want you to.
I went home to Texas in March 09 to recup from my surgery, my family was telling me that I had lost so much weight, they all saw me a year ago. I saw this aunt for the first time in like 25 years, and she said "Wow, you have gain weight, but then I guess we all are as we get older". I was looking dumb found as to why would she say that until I remember, when she last saw me, I was smaller than what I am today and she never saw me in my fat years. I was getting ready to get all up in my feelings.
Go to that dinner and have a good time because Becca want you to.
LEE
on 6/3/09 3:32 am
on 6/3/09 3:32 am
Thanks LaVerne
Your right it is different points in my journey, I just hate seeing people who saw me at my absolute skinniest and then having to see them when I gain weight. I am going to go and act like I am as skinny as I was before, I am about to get in my closet and find an outfit that makes me look thinnest.
Your right it is different points in my journey, I just hate seeing people who saw me at my absolute skinniest and then having to see them when I gain weight. I am going to go and act like I am as skinny as I was before, I am about to get in my closet and find an outfit that makes me look thinnest.
Salty Pickle a.k.a. Lee
I believe for most of us the mental part of this journey is the most challenging.
This is from my blog whan I was about 8 months post op.
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July 5, 2005
It almost made me want to cry. I was window shopping Saturday afternoon, and out of habit I walked into Talbot's Woman to do some browsing. After I'd been there for a few minutes looking around, a sales lady came up to me and said, "You'd probably find something next door to where the regular sized clothes are, like the small, medium, and large." I thought to myself, "Do I really look like a regular sized person? Is that how other people see me now?" After so many years of feeling freakishly fat and different, it was a lot to take in. For a few minutes I was overwhelmed with emotion. I'd recently bought a few articles of clothing that are size large, but I guess the reality of the transformation hadn't totally sunk in. I'm normal. I can fit in.
This is from my blog whan I was about 8 months post op.
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July 5, 2005
It almost made me want to cry. I was window shopping Saturday afternoon, and out of habit I walked into Talbot's Woman to do some browsing. After I'd been there for a few minutes looking around, a sales lady came up to me and said, "You'd probably find something next door to where the regular sized clothes are, like the small, medium, and large." I thought to myself, "Do I really look like a regular sized person? Is that how other people see me now?" After so many years of feeling freakishly fat and different, it was a lot to take in. For a few minutes I was overwhelmed with emotion. I'd recently bought a few articles of clothing that are size large, but I guess the reality of the transformation hadn't totally sunk in. I'm normal. I can fit in.
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